It has been quite noticeable, as people have talked about the effect the Queens death, and all the mourning, has had on them, on others, is the need to mourn, to grieve. Her death has sometimes triggered memories of the passing of close family members where there was no opportunity to grieve, or people shied away from the pain of grieving.

We know the essence of the Queen, her soul, was not in that coffin, but is with God, but even knowing that, how else could we honour, give thanks, and rejoice in her life, except with ceremony, with being there – even if it was through the TV.

Throughout the history of humankind, funerary ceremonies have taken place, carefully buried skeletons found from the stone age, with precious artifacts: Viking ship cremations, carefully buried pots of cremated remains.

Laments for the dead are found in every culture, and when we can do no more for the living person, we will need to mourn, with flowers, caring for relatives, ceremonies to honour them and commend them into God’s hands – or the equivalent in other faiths.

This is why it seems all the more amazing to me that there is much advertising of the type of cremations, where professionals take away the body, and then deal with it, with no attendance from family or friends, just a party if you wish.

It may be that people will regret that choice into the future as an essential part of a relationship is – mourning and honouring a loved one. It is not always a comfortable process, but one that for peace of mind and heart, needs to be done.

 [Janet Lawrence]